December 24, 2018
We know mother’s breast milk is the only life line for a new born baby. It literally builds up the baby’s body and health. It flows through the baby’s every artery and vein in the form of liquid life force. Nourishing your baby in right way is really a great challenge as a minute silly mistake can be proved fatal for your baby. Mother should be very alert doing so as the little baby cannot tell you its problems. Therefore, we can imagine how important and crucial the role of a mom in bringing up her baby is. In the same way, when your baby is about 3 or 4 years old, you get another challenge to educate your baby. Now many mothers ask me how to educate their children so that they can build up a best educational base which may turn really fruitful in future. As we don’t know what his/her future professional or educational field will be, we try to give them an overall educational base which starts from painting, singing, dancing, swimming, acting, reciting, karate so on , and in academic field Mathematics, Science, English, Mother language, History, Geography and many more subjects. As a result, they get huge burdened for nothing as most of the subjects will not be their concern in future. So, why will you over burden your child’s tender mind and brain? Then, what is the right way to teach your child at the age of 3 or 4?
If you try to understand the child psychology you can easily find that they are the best receiver when they get any input/command from their parents, especially from mom at this age. Not only that, they are the best observer—your child is always observing you – your action and your behaviour. So, before you teach your child any bookish information or multiplication table, please correct your and your husband’s/wife’s behaviour, if necessary, as it will be imprinted on your child’s sub conscious mind, no matter you want it or not. It will not work if a mom wants her child to speak the truth but she herself lies to others. Alexander Dumas rightly said,” Instruction is good for a child, but example is worth more.” So, please create enough good examples in front of your child as your child is going to copy you. It is said that mother is the first teacher for a child; I think she is the best too, as the other teachers teach a student only his / her own subject. But it is only a mom who teaches her child the basic of all things.
The base of morality is the most necessary foundation, I think, to bring up your child. If you are not enough careful to teach him /her how to respect the elders in general, it is more likely that he/she will not respect you in future. Today as we often see that sons or daughters send their old helpless father or mother to the old age home; and we start decrying the that sons or daughter; but in my point of view the responsibility actually lies in the seed that father or mother had sown long before in the baby sub conscious mind. Often parents, knowingly or unknowingly, teach their child to become selfish and only to think about themselves (including parents). Here ‘themselves’ includes parents only because of dependency. When the child is no more a child and is enough older to be called a man or a lady, and the tug of interdependency is vanished, the children start ignoring the old parents. Hence, the moral values are the only cement that can assure you that at least you will not have to go to the old age house.
You must see that your child learns courtesy, that is showing politeness in attitude and behaviour towards others. Courtesy is one of the key virtues that will help him/her to achieve success in future. It will help your child build a charming personality that will be reflected in attitude. And you know it is only personality and attitude that confirms whether your child will succeed in future or not. The time for studying History or Geography he/ she will get enough in future, but what is more important is that you need to work on your child’s Human Ground. Because, a person with fertile human ground can grow any crop, virtue or skill as needed. A person with great human ground is accepted by most of the people, and can build good relationship with them. Teach your child to share tiffin with brothers or sisters or with friends at school. Then other children will also do so. In this way your child will be able to form a good friend circle which will return in the form of helping hand tomorrow, and will create a good relationship with people. Now you should know good relationship is another pillar of success.
Social behaviour is another success tool that help a person exchange things with others. In fact, the children who can easily mix with others can grow many good qualities: such as he/she can easily take parts in games with others, in cultural programmes in the society, can enjoy some social duties in the local club, can have captaincy in the football or cricket team, can be selected monitor in the class. Above all he/she can achieve leadership qualities in himself/herself and that can be proved a great weapon in his/her future struggle of life. Therefore, do not have your child captivated in the room. But of course, you will ensure that he/she will have good companions.
The great men often say that you can’t make your life successful, it’s some good habits which you form make you successful. Therefore, ask yourself, are you careful enough to make some good habits in your child? If no, start today .This is the seed time for sowing the seeds of good habits in your child. Of course, sometimes it may appear little difficult as you have to follow some of these good habits also . Just instructing is not enough; you have to set examples before your child. If you can’t get up early in the morning you can’t advise your child to do so. You need to accompany him/her. But if you don’t follow whatever you instruct your child to follow, you will lose respect from him/her. You can forcefully make your child follow your instructions but can’t draw respect from him/her.
Feeling of insecurity is like dormant volcanoes sleeping in human sub conscious mind. Anytime it can burst out and destroy everything. Never let feeling of insecurity grow in your child. Children often feel unsecured when they do not get enough time from their parents, or are not loved. Parents who are always busy with their jobs or business and cannot give proper time to their children, and leave them to the maids or governesses, often face this kind of problems. Or if the children see their parents fight against each other, a feeling of insecurity grows among them. They need someone to be naughty with, to be pampered, to open their mind or to share everything. A maid or a governess cannot be substitute of mom or dad. So, be careful about their feeling, make them feel that you are there for him/her no matter whatever happens. But, of course, see that your child does not grow obnoxious and insists on everything. Make your child understand that you love him/her but you are not ready to keep his/her every word.
In the academic part, when your child is about 3 or 4, I will suggest not to overburden him/her. Because, very little of whatever he/she will learn or memorise from books at this age will remain in mind and be of use in future. What you can do with your child this time is just to form a habit of reading books in him/her. Let your child only play and read, again read and play. Do not snatch childhood from them overburdening their mind with books. A healthy and spontaneous mind can be formed only when they will enjoy their childhood to the brim. And you know a healthy mind will make your child a perfect person in future. Then what about the study at this age? Will your child learn nothing? Of course he/she will. Help him learn verbally. You just recite multiplication tables, cardinal numbers, and lots of common words and their meanings; take the help of pointing pictures of everything like animals , flowers, birds, solar system, vehicles, body parts, pieces of furniture, professions, and so on. They can remember these things for long time whatever they learn at this age but logical thinking.